Ipseity

There are many women in Fight Club and Brokeback Mountain. Restricting to only those characters that are central enough to have enough lines to allow analysis leaves us with only three - Marla, Alma, and Lureen. These three women all have problems with the men in their lives, but handle those problems in very different ways.
Marla can hardly be used as a model of sanity and well-adjustment, yet her idiosyncrasies pale beside Tyler/Narrator's. Tyler/Narrator, to her, was loving one moment and resentful the next. Marla's strategy for coping with a man who would tell her to her face that he wasn't there was very interesting. She didn't. There was no compromise or strategy - she simply faced the problem head on. Marla screams at him, denounces him, and angrily leaves. Under the circumstances, that was probably one of the best choices she could have made. If she had only done it earlier, she might even have been spared involvement in Tyler's schemes. Not attempting to cope and acting in her own best interest served her well.
Lureen pursued a very different strategy to deal with her problems with Jack. While it is debatable whether or not she knew about his involvement with Ennis - I think that most would agree that she certainly at least had suspicions - Lureen dealt with these issues by pretending that they did not exist. In her final appearance, if Jack was murdered, then Lureen simply rewrote the past to suit her willful ignorance. If Jack honestly did die in an accident, then she merely ignored suspicion.
Alma certainly knew about Ennis and Jack. While many criticize her for leaving him, arguing that she should have been more supportive and forgiving and claiming that she was discriminatory, this ignores the fact that her husband was cheating on her. The fact that he was cheating on her with a man, or that he believed himself to be in love with Jack, in no way ameliorates his crime. She did in fact wait for a time after she knew, but when the affair continued, she left. She dealt with the problem by leaving it behind.
There can be no one record of the methods these women used to deal with their problems, because each one of them was unique, and therefore their solutions were as well.